A Rebound Relationship - Can I Still Get Her Back?

A rebound relationship is one where she is dating someone else to get over you.  Rebound relationships keep people from having to deal with the emotions of breaking up.  They’re used to help people move on from a real love. 

And that’s the key to getting your ex back.  She’s in a rebound relationship to deal with losing you. It does not matter why she lost you.  It doesn’t matter if it is your fault or hers.  It doesn’t even matter who actually called the relationship off.  What matters is that you have a real love.

Because virtually all relationships founded on real love can be saved.

If she’s in a rebound relationship, she will be focusing on what is wrong with your relationship.  If you were a “good guy” she’ll probably be hanging out with a “bad boy.”  If you were into philosophy, he’ll be watching Monday Night Football.  Or, vice versa.

The fact that she is actually focusing on the differences in your styles is actually good for you for two reasons.  Her attention is still focused on you even when she’s with the new guy.  And, it gives you a chance to see what she’s looking for.

If she’s with someone as different from you as possible, it means that she was missing something in your relationship.  You can use the time she’s with rebound man to improve yourself.

Let the rebound relationship run its course.  As she spends time with the new guy, she’ll start to see the flaws in him.  After a month or so with rebound man, you’ll start to look pretty good. Once she realises all men guff in bed and he's not what he portrayed in the chase :-)

That’s why you don’t want to crawl back to her right away.  Let her develop the idea that she misses the good things in the relationship.  When she’s ready to make a move, be magnanimous.  Welcome her back graciously.  Be a new and improved boyfriend, but don’t do the chasing.

Here are some specific steps to take when your ex is in a rebound relationship:

• Don’t try to convince her that you are the love of her life.  Let her discover this on her own. You can't force this so I'm afraid you will have to be strong and patient.

• Don’t apologize profusely.  If you did something wrong, you can say you’re sorry once!  But move on.  She knows the real reason she loves you and will begin to love you again once she calms down and emotions stop controlling the situation.

• Don’t make promises to change.  You are who you are and that’s who she fell in love with. This is always a mistake as we will always revert to what we are in time. You just need to remind her of why she fell in love with you in the first place.

• Don’t try to make her see that it wasn’t your fault.  She will come to appreciate that over time – but only if you haven’t made her invest energy in defending her position that it was your fault. People don't think rationally when blaming people so let her chill and she will start to think logically and see that 'it takes two to tango'.

• Never, ever beg her to take you back! Your creditability just flys out the window if you beg. Be strong, you can't fight nature and nature dictates most women like strong men who can protect them and look after them in a crisis. Even in modern times. Begging just blows that out completely and all is lost.

When you ex starts going out with someone just after you break up, she’s in a rebound relationship.  You can make up with her and get back together.  Don’t despair.  The rebound relationship is a sign that she’s still in love with you.

So get some advice and start winning back that love and passion. It will be worth it, we have but one life to live and its not a dress rehearsal so get it right!

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